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<channel><title><![CDATA[Seattle Widow Resources - Blog]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog]]></link><description><![CDATA[Blog]]></description><pubDate>Tue, 28 Jul 2026 22:26:31 -0700</pubDate><generator>Weebly</generator><item><title><![CDATA[Modern Grief Therapies - Yoga]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/modern-grief-therapies-yoga]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/modern-grief-therapies-yoga#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 21 May 2026 21:09:10 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/modern-grief-therapies-yoga</guid><description><![CDATA[How can yoga benefit widows? This is the question I put to Ariel Young, a registered yoga teacher at Seattle's Yoga on Beacon, when I learned that a yoga workshop for grievers was taking place last month.Ms. Young started with explaining what yoga is.&ldquo;Yoga literally means &lsquo;to yoke&rsquo; in Sanscrit, as in &lsquo;yoking&rsquo; oxen together to pull a cart. It is often translated as 'union.' Union of the mind and body, of breath and movement, but most importantly, union of Atman&mdash [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph"><font size="4"><font color="#2a2a2a">How can yoga benefit widows? </font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">This is the question I put to Ariel Young, a registered yoga teacher at Seattle's Yog</font><strong style="color:rgb(42, 42, 42)">a on Beacon, when I learned that a yoga workshop for grievers was taking place last month.</strong><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Ms. Young started with explaining what yoga is.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">&ldquo;Yoga literally means &lsquo;to yoke&rsquo; in Sanscrit, as in &lsquo;yoking&rsquo; oxen together to pull a cart. It is often translated as 'union.' Union of the mind and body, of breath and movement, but most importantly, union of Atman&mdash;your individual consciousness&mdash;with Brahman, the eternal, unchanging 'That' from which all existence proceeds and eventually returns. The course of life often separates us from this natural state of union into which we are born."</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">What about its applicability to grieving individuals?</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">&ldquo;The immense disruption of a death loss can leave us feeling profoundly disconnected. The practice of yoga&mdash;particularly restorative yoga, where the body is fully and effortlessly supported by gravity and props&mdash;is the journey back to that state and beneficial to the bereaved.&rdquo;</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">For many years, talk therapy and group support were the only resources that were perceived to be helpful to widows. Modern therapies such as yoga, however, are gaining more visibility. </font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">In the greater Seattle area, there are more than 150 dedicated yoga studios, several of which include a focus on grief in their practices.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">In addition to yoga classes, the owner of Yoga on Beacon, Danielle Fraser, supports periodic workshops such as the recent "Yoga for Loss" offering. For more information about Yoga on Beacon, click </font><a href="https://www.yogaonbeacon.com/" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a><font color="#2a2a2a">.</font><br /><br /></font><font size="4"><font color="#2a2a2a">Besides teaching yoga, Ariel Young is also a licensed independent clinical social worker and certified grief counselor. She has openings for therapy clients and specializes in issues of chronic illness, loss, and grief. Both in-person and telehealth appointments are available. For more information, click </font><em><a href="http://stelliumpllc.com" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a></em><font color="#2a2a2a">.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">&ldquo;Modern Grief Therapies - Yoga&rdquo; is the second in a series. To read my blog post &ldquo;Modern Grief Therapies &ndash; Art,&rdquo; click </font><em><a href="https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/modern-grief-therapies-art" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a></em><font color="#2a2a2a">.</font><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">&nbsp;</font><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Copyright&copy;2026 Seattle Widow Resources. All rights reserved.</font></font></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Modern Grief Therapies - Art]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/modern-grief-therapies-art]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/modern-grief-therapies-art#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Wed, 04 Feb 2026 14:15:18 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/modern-grief-therapies-art</guid><description><![CDATA[When my husband died over a decade ago, local resources for widows largely centered on talk therapy and grief support groups. Back then, I don&rsquo;t remember hearing about offerings such as art therapy, etc., in spite of the fact that creative arts therapies have been around for decades. In recent years, though, they have increased in popularity.As part of my ongoing search for resources for widows and in response to a recent loss, last weekend I attended a one-day workshop that focused on cre [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph"><font size="4"><font color="#2a2a2a">When my husband died over a decade ago, local resources for widows largely centered on talk therapy and grief support groups. Back then, I don&rsquo;t remember hearing about offerings such as art therapy, etc., in spite of the fact that creative arts therapies have been around for decades. In recent years, though, they have increased in popularity.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">As part of my ongoing search for resources for widows and in response to a recent loss, last weekend I attended a one-day workshop that focused on creative ways to process and express grief. As a writer, I have found putting pen to paper to be quite cathartic; however, art, dance, and drama are definitely not within my comfort zone. Thus, I was pleasantly surprised to find that a lot of stress and sorrow was relieved during the creative arts workshop. I left with a feeling of peace about my recent loss and an appreciation for the compassionate souls who bravely shared their own stories as we collectively expressed our grief through creative arts.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">If you are a fresh widow, you may not be familiar with the newer therapies that have arisen in the grief space. In the next few blog posts, I will attempt a brief explanation in plain language of a number of therapies I have learned about in recent years. Today&rsquo;s subject is </font><strong style="color:rgb(42, 42, 42)">art therapy.</strong><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Art therapy is usually led by someone who has been trained in psychology and art. Credentialed art therapists possess a Masters degree. An ATR credential means they are &ldquo;art therapist registered.&rdquo; If their credentials are ATR-BC, that means they are also &ldquo;board-certified.&rdquo; The Art Therapy Credentials Board oversees board certification nationally of art therapists.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Grief counselors, death doulas, and other practitioners who are not art-therapist credentialed may incorporate various art therapy techniques into their practices but cannot call themselves &ldquo;art therapists.&rdquo; Expressing emotions through painting or drawing, making memory boxes, or creating collages are just a few approaches a counselor might use in treating a client.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">During a session, the grieving person uses art materials (paint, clay, pencils, mixed media, or many other items) to create something that represents what they are feeling or experiencing. The therapist or counselor may offer guidance during this process.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">The focus isn&rsquo;t on creating a &ldquo;work of art,&rdquo; but on how the process of creating art itself may aid the griever in dealing with stress, trauma, or other emotions. The meaning of the final piece may be known only to the griever, or they may be asked to share and discuss it with the facilitator and/or others in a class or workshop.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Research has indicated art therapy may help with processing trauma, stress reduction, and other benefits. Neuroscience researchers assert that art-making enhances brain function and emotional regulation.</font><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">An interesting review study can be found on the following NIH/National Library of Medicine web page:</font><br /><a href="https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9472646/"><font color="#24678d">Role of Art Therapy in the Promotion of Mental Health: A Critical Review - PMC</font></a><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">The American Art Therapy Association has a comprehensive Fact Sheet about art therapy. Click on the link below.</font><br /><a href="https://arttherapy.org/what-is-art-therapy/"><font color="#24678d">What is Art Therapy? - American Art Therapy Association</font></a><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">In the Seattle area, a few options for art therapy include:&nbsp; &nbsp;</font><strong><a href="https://www.arttherapypnw.com/" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">Art Therapy PNW</font></a></strong><font color="#2a2a2a">, which offers individual and group therapy, workshops, and, in some cases, remote sessions.&nbsp; </font><strong><a href="https://www.proteawellness.org/art-therapy" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">Protea Wellness</font></a><font color="#2a2a2a"> f</font></strong><font color="#2a2a2a">eatures multiple therapists specializing in art therapy.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">There are also various individual licensed therapists who offer art therapy. </font><em style="color:rgb(42, 42, 42)">Psychology Today </em><font color="#2a2a2a">has a list that can be found using the link below:</font><br /><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/wa/seattle?category=art-therapy"><font color="#24678d">Find Art Therapy and Psychologists in Seattle, WA - Psychology Today</font></a><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Widows can also Google &ldquo;art therapy for grief in Seattle&rdquo; to find an art therapist or a counselor who incorporates art therapy into their practice.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Many practicing artists use their art techniques to process their own grief and share their grief story with others. (An example would be </font><a href="http://www.deathdancer.org" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">Death Dancer</font></a><font color="#2a2a2a">&rsquo;s remarkable &ldquo;Perspectives on Death, Dying, Loss and Living&rdquo; exhibit during the Fall 2025 Olympia Arts Walk.)</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">&#8203;In my next post I will talk about dance/guided movement therapy for grieving individuals.</font><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">&nbsp;</font><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Copyright &copy;2026 Seattle Widow Resources. All rights reserved.&nbsp;</font></font></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Spotlight on Death Dancer]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-death-dancer]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-death-dancer#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Mon, 29 Sep 2025 13:25:37 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-death-dancer</guid><description><![CDATA[In the short time that Death Dancer has been operating in Olympia, it has already made a significant impact on the South Sound community.This innovative community organization was founded by Jennie Beth Banks, who serves as its creative director. Her own experience in coming close to death in 2021 led to her decision to explore ways that conversations around death care and death awareness could be shared&mdash;not only through her own efforts as an artist, documentary filmmaker, and death doula, [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2 class="wsite-content-title"><font size="5">In the short time that Death Dancer has been operating in Olympia, it has already made a significant impact on the South Sound community.<br /><br />This innovative community organization was founded by Jennie Beth Banks, who serves as its creative director. Her own experience in coming close to death in 2021 led to her decision to explore ways that conversations around death care and death awareness could be shared&mdash;not only through her own efforts as an artist, documentary filmmaker, and death doula, but through the contributions of others who work in the death care and death awareness community.<br /><br />Last year Banks used her artistic talents to curate an exhibit for the 2024 Fall Olympia Arts Walk, using conceptual mixed media art pieces related to Death &amp; Dying, Loss, and Living. Throughout the month of October, Death Dancer offered workshops and lectures in Olympia that focused on different aspects of dying and grief.<br /><br />This year Death Dancer has introduced monthly grief gatherings, memorial events, workshops, walks, and socials. All events are open to the public. Donations are gratefully accepted but not required.<br /><br />This weekend (October 3-5), Death Dancer&rsquo;s 2025 Fall Olympia Arts Walk exhibit will expand from one venue to two, with locations at 111 Cherry Street and 520 Fourth Avenue. In addition to artistic contributions such as paintings, ceramics, embroidery, sculptures, and photography, there will be poetry, author readings, dance, music and song. Inspire Olympia is a co-sponsor.<br /><br />&ldquo;I want people to have a safe, welcoming space to talk about their own experiences with death and dying,&rdquo; Banks states, &ldquo;and to inspire people to live their lives to the fullest.&rdquo;<br /><br />For more information about Death Dancer, click <u><a href="https://deathdancer.org" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a></u>. For more information about Death Dancer&rsquo;s collaborative exhibit at the 2025 Fall Olympia Arts Walk, click <u><a href="https://deathdancer.org/arts-walk-2025" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a></u>.<br />&nbsp;<br />&copy;2025 Seattle Widow Resources. All rights reserved.</font><br /><br /></h2>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Spotlight on Return Home]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-return-home]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-return-home#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Wed, 26 Mar 2025 23:36:39 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-return-home</guid><description><![CDATA[I recently toured Return Home, a local facility that offers natural organic reduction (NOR) as an alternative to traditional burial and cremation.NOR is one of the &ldquo;green options&rdquo; that is garnering more attention as ecological death care has become more popular in recent years. It is also sometimes referred to as &ldquo;body composting.&rdquo; Return Home has trademarked the term &ldquo;Terramation&rdquo; for their process, which they describe as &ldquo;gently and naturally transform [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph"><font color="#2a2a2a">I recently toured Return Home, a local facility that offers natural organic reduction (NOR) as an alternative to traditional burial and cremation.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">NOR is one of the &ldquo;green options&rdquo; that is garnering more attention as ecological death care has become more popular in recent years. It is also sometimes referred to as &ldquo;body composting.&rdquo; Return Home has trademarked the term &ldquo;Terramation&rdquo; for their process, which they describe as &ldquo;gently and naturally transforming human remains into soil.&rdquo;</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">I was met by the pre-planning manager, Jake Miller, who graciously gave me an hour of his time to take me on a tour of the facility and answer my questions. Prior to joining Return Home, Mr. Miller spent nine years working in a traditional funeral home offering burial and cremation, so he was well-versed in all forms of death care.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Return Home opened their Auburn facility in mid-2021. In the beginning, their clientele consisted mostly of farmers and ranchers, who by virtue of their lifestyle and work were attracted to the idea of becoming one with the earth after death. By 2023 Return Home was able to offer more services beyond Terramation&trade; only and their clientele expanded substantially. A cozy waiting room and a large &ldquo;laying-in&rdquo; space were added, where families and guests (up to 200 people) can hold a funeral service or celebration of life for their loved one. Since approximately half of the families reside outside Washington state, live-streaming is also available via Zoom.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">I have previously written about the NOR process in general (click </font><u><a href="https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-is-natural-organic-reduction"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a></u><font color="#2a2a2a">), but the following is a brief summary of Return Home&rsquo;s process once they have received a person&rsquo;s body.</font><ol><li><font color="#2a2a2a">The bottom of the polycarbonate vessel is filled with a layer of organic material. Return Home uses alfalfa, straw, and sawdust, which provide the required nitrogen, insulation, and moisture.</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">After being bathed and dressed in a compostable garment, the person&rsquo;s body is placed on the organic material.</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">A second layer of organic material is added.</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">Space remains in the upper portion of the vessel to ensure passive air flow.</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">Terramation&trade; takes place, as the temperature and other metrics are constantly monitored (using specialized computer software). The vessel will be moved periodically for a short time in order to redistribute microbial activity and moisture. A resting period follows.</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">When the 8- to 10-week process is complete, the person&rsquo;s body will have been transformed into approximately 1-1/2 cubic yards of soil, which can be returned to the family or transported to an eight-acre greenbelt site in Kent, Washington.</font></li></ol><font color="#2a2a2a">Return Home offers family and friends an opportunity to decorate their loved one&rsquo;s vessel with photographs, artwork, or anything else that is meaningful to them and their person. Visits are welcomed during business hours.<br /><br />Return Home is unique in that it provides services at no cost when the individual who has died is a child aged 17 and under. They also connect families and friends with grief support services and resources.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Their General Price List (GPL) is provided on their website (returnhome.com) and to those who visit the facility in person. Similar to traditional funeral homes, costs will vary depending on the services requested; however, a price range of $5,450 to $7,000 can be expected. I found their GPL to be very straightforward, which widows will appreciate given that sometimes funeral home &ldquo;packages&rdquo; can be confusing to compare. Return Home is a licensed funeral home and employs two funeral directors.&nbsp;</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">I will also mention that during the short time I waited for Mr. Miller upon my arrival, at least four staff members stopped by to ask if I was being taken care of. I appreciated that.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Return Home is located at 4146 B Place NW, Auburn, WA 98001. Phone number is (206) 888-4663, and email address is info@returnhome.com</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Copyright &copy;2025. Seattle Widow Resources.</font><br /><br /><br /></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[What the Heck is a "Death Cafe"?]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-the-heck-is-a-death-cafe]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-the-heck-is-a-death-cafe#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 12 Dec 2024 15:25:08 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-the-heck-is-a-death-cafe</guid><description><![CDATA[As part of my quest to identify resources for Seattle area widows, I recently attended my first &ldquo;Death Caf&eacute;&rdquo; in Olympia. My goal was to find out if these unstructured discussions about death and dying would have any benefit for those who have lost a spouse.My conclusion? It depends.First, some brief background:The first Death Cafes were offered in the United Kingdom in 2010 and quickly spread to Europe, North America, and Australia. There are currently nearly 20,000 Death Cafe [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph"><font color="#2a2a2a">As part of my quest to identify resources for Seattle area widows, I recently attended my first &ldquo;Death Caf&eacute;&rdquo; in Olympia. My goal was to find out if these unstructured discussions about death and dying would have any benefit for those who have lost a spouse.<br /><br />My conclusion? It depends.<br /><br />First, some brief background:</font><ul><li><font color="#2a2a2a">The first Death Cafes were offered in the United Kingdom in 2010 and quickly spread to Europe, North America, and Australia. There are currently nearly 20,000 Death Cafes in 93 countries.</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">Their purpose is &ldquo;to increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives.&rdquo;</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">The meetings are organized and facilitated by volunteers who agree to abide by established Death Caf&eacute; rules.</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">There is no cost to attend a meeting, and there is no set agenda for the meetings.</font></li><li><font color="#2a2a2a">Although it is not a support group, there is an expectation of confidentiality.</font></li></ul><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">The meeting I attended was held in a conference room that quickly filled up with nineteen attendees plus the facilitator (fourteen women, including me, and five men). Most appeared to be over the age of sixty, but there were a handful of younger folks, too.<br /><br />The facilitator asked us to take a deep breath and settle into our chairs. He spent a couple minutes talking about the history of Death Caf&eacute;s, reviewing the guidelines for the discussion, and asked us to share what brought us to the meeting. He then asked if anyone had any subject they&rsquo;d like to discuss. One participant shared that she had attended a local three-day grief retreat that had a profound (positive) effect on her. A number of attendees asked follow-up questions and information was shared about grief events, speakers, and books that might be of interest.<br /><br />Although grief had been the first topic, there were many other topics discussed during the 90-minute meeting. With no set agenda, folks were free to bring up whatever was on their minds. The importance of advance directives, burial options such as human composting and scattering ashes, concerns about older individuals who might pass away while living alone, Washington&rsquo;s Death with Dignity Act&mdash;these subjects were all discussed and provided ways to exchange experiences and information with the group.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">The tone of the meeting was upbeat and matter of fact, not depressing. The facilitator knew when to step in and steer the conversation into new directions and had some wonderful quotes that he interjected at appropriate times (such as Confucius&rsquo;s famous statement, &ldquo;We have two lives, and the second begins when we learn we have only one.&rdquo;).<br /><br />I had no way of knowing if any attendees were fellow widows, or what other death losses anyone had experienced unless they brought it up during our brief introductions.<br /><br />So why did I reach the conclusion that &ldquo;it depends&rdquo; on whether a Death Caf&eacute; might be helpful to a widow?<br /><br />I think it depends on where you are in your grief journey and your unique way of dealing with your grief. For some fresh widows, it might be too distressing to hear some people speak about death in a way that can seem too detached when the searing pain of losing your spouse is still so acute. In early grief there are so many triggers that we are unaware of until we experience them, and you need to know what you can handle.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">On the other hand, I have also known widows who said they felt uncomfortable in traditional grief support settings but wished there was somewhere they could talk about grief and death. You may be a widow who feels more comfortable in a setting where there is a little emotional distance, such as a Death Caf&eacute; meeting.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">There were quite a few individuals at the meeting who did not choose to speak, so if you did decide to attend a Death Caf&eacute;, know that you do not have to talk and you can also excuse yourself for a few minutes if you need a moment alone.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Experiencing widowhood can cause some of us to become much more focused on the subject of death itself. This new preoccupation can be disconcerting to friends and loved ones, so I can envision how attending a Death Caf&eacute; might be one outlet for sharing your feelings, experiences, and concerns about what is inevitable for all of us. Even if you are not in a place right now to benefit from attending a Death Caf&eacute;, you may want to consider doing so at a future time.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">There are more than a dozen Death Cafes in the greater Seattle area. You can go directly to the Death Caf&eacute; website (click </font><em><a href="https://deathcafe.com/" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a></em><font color="#2a2a2a"> and select &ldquo;Find a Death Caf&eacute;&rdquo;) or you can do a Google search and include your specific location. (Not every organizer uses the main website to list their meeting times and location.) &nbsp;</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">If you are not a widow and you are reading this blog post, I would not hesitate to encourage you to think about attending a Death Caf&eacute;. We need to normalize discussions around this topic in our society.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Copyright &copy;2024 S. Larkin/Seattle Widow Resources</font></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Spotlight on Help Texts]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-help-texts]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-help-texts#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Sat, 17 Aug 2024 18:27:24 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-help-texts</guid><description><![CDATA[We live in a world where more and more communication is taking place via text. While the SeattleWidowResources.com website primarily focuses on traditional local grief support resources, some widows may be interested in knowing about other options.&nbsp;Help Texts was created by a Seattle widow (Emma Payne) who sought to apply her extensive background in technology to helping grieving individuals in need of emotional support.&nbsp;Help Texts offers widows private grief support in the form of enc [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2 class="wsite-content-title">We live in a world where more and more communication is taking place via text. While the SeattleWidowResources.com website primarily focuses on traditional local grief support resources, some widows may be interested in knowing about other options.<br />&nbsp;<br />Help Texts was created by a Seattle widow (Emma Payne) who sought to apply her extensive background in technology to helping grieving individuals in need of emotional support.<br />&nbsp;<br />Help Texts offers widows private grief support in the form of encouraging, validating, and uplifting text messages twice a week. These messages are personalized, based on the information a widow chooses to share about their loss. (Information is not shared with third parties.) The texts may reflect upon aspects of a widow&rsquo;s grief journey that they may not have considered and thus can be educational as well as comforting.<br />&nbsp;<br />The texts are composed by the Help Texts team of individuals who have studied and worked in the grief space for many years. Although you may not know the person who writes the texts you receive, the immediate emotional response can be, &ldquo;This person understands what I&rsquo;m feeling.&rdquo; It can provide a measure of relief from the feelings of isolation and not being seen in your grief.<br />&nbsp;<br />The Help Texts website (https://helptexts.com) includes examples of some of the messages a grieving person may receive.<br />&nbsp;<br />A subscription currently costs $99. This includes the twice-weekly texts, plus encouraging messages that will be sent on important dates and holidays. For no additional cost, a widow can add two &ldquo;supporters&rdquo; &ndash; individuals who (if they accept) may benefit from receiving suggestions from Help Texts as to how they can support you in your grief journey. Gift subscriptions are also an option for those who know a widow and believe this additional emotional support would be well received.<br />&nbsp;<br />Help Texts currently delivers support in 44 countries and in 25 languages.<br />&nbsp;<br />A personal note: Although my husband died before Help Texts was created, I did suffer another death loss a few years ago and I found the Help Texts I received to be very comforting. They seemed to arrive at just the right time and always seemed to relieve a little bit of my grief.&nbsp;<br />&nbsp;<br />Copyright &copy;2024 S. Larkin/Seattle Widow Resources<br /></h2>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[What is "Aquamation"?]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-is-aquamation]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-is-aquamation#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Wed, 08 May 2024 19:29:30 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-is-aquamation</guid><description><![CDATA[In previous posts I wrote about alternatives to traditional burial or cremation, including &ldquo;Green Burial&rdquo; and &ldquo;Natural Organic Reduction.&rdquo; There is another choice that is not as widely known but is also garnering attention&mdash;&ldquo;Aquamation&rdquo; (also known as &ldquo;Alkaline Hydrolysis&rdquo;).Basically, aquamation is the process of transforming an individual&rsquo;s body into a powder-like substance that is similar to cremated ashes using an alkaline water solut [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2 class="wsite-content-title">In previous posts I wrote about alternatives to traditional burial or cremation, including &ldquo;Green Burial&rdquo; and &ldquo;Natural Organic Reduction.&rdquo; There is another choice that is not as widely known but is also garnering attention&mdash;&ldquo;Aquamation&rdquo; (also known as &ldquo;Alkaline Hydrolysis&rdquo;).<br /><br />Basically, aquamation is the process of transforming an individual&rsquo;s body into a powder-like substance that is similar to cremated ashes using an alkaline water solution rather than flame cremation.<br />&#8203;<br /><em>How does it work?</em><br />The body is placed into either a stainless steel vessel or a shroud, depending on the process the facility uses. A heated alkaline-water solution is added. The body gradually liquifies and the bones are transformed into ash (similar to cremation). The process can take from six hours or more to complete. The ashes are returned to the family.<br /><br /><em>How is it more environmentally friendly?</em><br />It does not use fossil fuels and it uses less energy than traditional cremation.<br /><br /><em>What about the cost?</em><br />Aquamation usually costs about half as much as traditional burial, but it may be slightly more expensive than traditional cremation. It may range from approximately two to three thousand dollars.<br /><br />As with all the other &ldquo;green&rdquo; options, the cost may vary depending on additional services requested, such as a funeral service or multiple copies of the death certificate, plus taxes and fees, etc.<br />&#8203;<br /><em>Is this option available in Washington State?</em><br />Yes, Washington is one of nearly half the states in the U.S. that have approved this green alternative. In the Seattle area, Bonney Watson Funeral Home offers aquamation and their website features an excellent detailed explanation of the process (click <a href="https://bonneywatson.com/disposition/aquamation-services/" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a>).<br /><br />If your spouse did not have a chance to express their personal wishes, I hope that this post and my recent posts on Green Burial and Natural Organic Reduction might help in making the difficult choice between traditional burial/cremation options and alternative green options.&nbsp;<br /><br /><font size="5">Copyright &copy; 2024. S. Larkin/Seattle Widow Resources</font><br /><br /></h2>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[What is Natural Organic Reduction?]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-is-natural-organic-reduction]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-is-natural-organic-reduction#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 07 Mar 2024 14:40:51 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/what-is-natural-organic-reduction</guid><description><![CDATA[Ecological death care has gained in popularity in recent years. In my previous post, I wrote about &ldquo;green burial,&rdquo; but there are other &ldquo;green options&rdquo; not involving burial of the deceased person that Seattle area widows might want to be aware of.There are various terms used to describe what is essentially the same process: &ldquo;Natural organic reduction&rdquo; (NOR) is also sometimes referred to as &ldquo;human composting,&rdquo; &ldquo;body composting,&rdquo; or &ldquo [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<h2 class="wsite-content-title"><font size="5">Ecological death care has gained in popularity in recent years. In my previous post, I wrote about &ldquo;green burial,&rdquo; but there are other &ldquo;green options&rdquo; not involving burial of the deceased person that Seattle area widows might want to be aware of.<br /><br />There are various terms used to describe what is essentially the same process: &ldquo;Natural organic reduction&rdquo; (NOR) is also sometimes referred to as &ldquo;human composting,&rdquo; &ldquo;body composting,&rdquo; or &ldquo;soil transformation.&rdquo; One local provider (Return Home) has trademarked the term, &ldquo;terramation.&rdquo;<br /><br />In this post I will use &ldquo;NOR&rdquo; to discuss this green option.<br /><br /><em>Why would someone choose NOR?</em><br />NOR returns our bodies to the earth as fertile compost. Unlike traditional burial involving embalming, or cremation, NOR uses no chemicals or fossil fuels that are harmful to the planet. (It is similar to green burial in that respect.)<br /><br />With NOR, an individual&rsquo;s body is transported to the facility that will conduct the process. This facility must be a licensed funeral home in the state of Washington. There are three such funeral homes/NOR facilities serving the greater Seattle area. I toured one facility and I conducted a phone interview with another facility to gain a greater understanding of the process involved.<br /><br /><em>What is the process?</em><br />Once the deceased individual&rsquo;s body is received, the funeral home staff will prepare it for undergoing the NOR process. The body will be placed inside a vessel (steel or polycarbonate, depending on the facility). The funeral home staff will place organic material around the body. (The organic material may differ in each NOR facility.) Each facility has a slightly different method for transforming the body into soil. The microbes that are present in the body are attracted to the nitrogen-rich organic material that has been placed around the body. Air flow (oxygen) in the vessel can be active or passive (again, facilities differ). After the vessel is closed, the body begins its transformation. The temperature will be checked periodically. &nbsp;<br /><br />The time it takes to complete the transformation varies depending on which NOR facility you choose. It can range from 45 days to 90 days. At the end of the process, the body will have been transformed into 1 to 1-1/2 cubic yards of soil. Loved ones may receive all or a portion of the soil to scatter or distribute as they wish. They may also choose to donate soil to the NOR facility, which will transport it to a location that has been certified as a burial ground for such remains.<br /><br /><em>What does it cost?</em><br />The cost will vary depending on which funeral home/facility you choose and the services you require. Two of the three local facilities provide their pricing online, and the cost for the basic package of services ranges from approximately $5,000 to $7,000. Adding services such as transporting the body to the facility, delivery of soil to family (in lieu of picking it up), and other special needs may incur additional fees. As a licensed funeral home, these facilities must adhere to the same requirements of &ldquo;The Funeral Rule&rdquo; (enacted by the Federal Trade Commission) as traditional funeral homes. This includes providing a General Price List to consumers. (Click <a href="https://consumer.ftc.gov/articles/ftc-funeral-rule" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a> to read The Funeral Rule.)<br /><br /><em>Some additional things to consider:</em><br />1. Do you want to hold a funeral service at the time of the &ldquo;laying in&rdquo; of your loved one&rsquo;s body? (Do they have a designated space for this?)<br />2. Do you want to be able to stream the service to out-of-area family/friends?<br />3. Do you want to be able to visit during the transformation process? (Is there a fee for this and what hours are available for visitation?)<br />4. Will it be possible to visit the site where the soil you donate will be distributed/scattered? (Will it require traveling outside the greater Seattle area?)<br />5.&nbsp;Do they offer any grief support for loved ones (like some traditional funeral homes)?<br /><br />The three NOR funeral homes/facilities in the greater Seattle area are: <a href="https://recompose.life/" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">Recompose</font></a>, <a href="https://returnhome.com/" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">Return Home</font></a>, and <a href="https://earthfuneral.com/?utm_source=googlemybusiness&amp;utm_medium=organic&amp;utm_campaign=auburn" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">Earth</font></a>. (Click on name to link to website.) Like any licensed funeral home, they are accustomed to serving immediate needs.<br /><br />There is one more &ldquo;green option,&rdquo; which I will discuss in my next blog post.<br /><br />&#8203;Copyright &copy; 2024. S. Larkin/Seattle Widow Resources</font></h2>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Green Burial in Washington State]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/green-burial-in-washington-state]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/green-burial-in-washington-state#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Fri, 26 Jan 2024 14:34:18 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/green-burial-in-washington-state</guid><description><![CDATA[&#8203;When I became a widow a decade ago, &ldquo;green burial&rdquo; was not common, even though the age-old practice had been revived starting in the 1990s. In recent years, however, it is receiving more attention as concern for the earth grows. It is legal in Washington state, so here are a few basic things to know:1. Green burial is after-death care in which the key word is biodegradable.-There is no embalming of a body using toxic chemicals. If embalming takes place, non-toxic and biodegrad [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph"><font color="#2a2a2a">&#8203;When I became a widow a decade ago, &ldquo;green burial&rdquo; was not common, even though the age-old practice had been revived starting in the 1990s. In recent years, however, it is receiving more attention as concern for the earth grows. It is legal in Washington state, so here are a few basic things to know:</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">1. Green burial is after-death care in which the key word is </font><em style="color:rgb(42, 42, 42)">biodegradable</em><font color="#2a2a2a">.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">-There is no embalming of a body using toxic chemicals. If embalming takes place, non-toxic and biodegradable fluids are used.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">-The body is not buried using a metal casket, vault liner, or other nonbiodegradable materials. Instead, the body is placed in a wooden casket or a fiber shroud.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">-The body is then placed into the ground where it naturally decomposes.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">2. There are many funeral homes in the greater Seattle area that will prepare the body in the manner described above. Call the funeral home you are considering or consult their website to see if they offer green burial services.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">3. Once the body has been prepared, it can be placed:</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">- In an exclusively &ldquo;natural burial&rdquo; cemetery.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">- In a &ldquo;conservation burial ground.&rdquo; (These are usually in non-urban areas associated with parks, preserves, or protected land.)</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">- In a &ldquo;hybrid,&rdquo; or traditional cemetery where there is a section set aside for natural burial.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">4. The cost of a green burial is often less since some products, such as vault liner, will be omitted; however, the cost of purchasing a burial plot may be the same or more, depending on the natural burial cemetery option chosen. As with any type of after-death care, it&rsquo;s difficult to compare costs because there are so many factors and personal preferences to consider.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">5. There is an organization that was founded in 2005 to establish standards for cemeteries, funeral homes, and product providers of green burial: the </font><em style="color:rgb(42, 42, 42)">Green Burial Council. </em><font color="#2a2a2a">Their website contains helpful information as well as a list of funeral providers and cemeteries in Washington state that have been GBC-certified. Click </font><a href="https://www.greenburialcouncil.org/funeral_homes_o-z.html" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a><font color="#2a2a2a">&nbsp;to view funeral providers (scroll to bottom of page for Washington) and click </font><a href="https://www.greenburialcouncil.org/cemeteries.html" target="_blank"><font color="#248d6c">HERE</font></a><font color="#2a2a2a"> to view cemeteries. </font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">(Note: Funeral providers/cemeteries not on this list may have elected not to seek certification from GBC but that doesn't necessarily mean they don't adhere to established standards. Due diligence is advised.)</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">There are pros and cons to green burial. Obviously, it is better for the environment as harmful chemicals (used in traditional burial) and emissions (from cremation) are eliminated. It may also be less expensive than traditional burial. But it does require land, which means that whatever space local cemeteries may have set aside for green burial may be limited. (The US is already running out of cemetery space in urban areas.) As a widow, you may not wish to drive many hours to &ldquo;visit&rdquo; your spouse&rsquo;s gravesite in a natural cemetery or conservation burial ground. There are also restrictions on headstones/grave markers to consider.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Green burial is only one of the &ldquo;Green Options&rdquo; widows may want to know about. In my next post I will explain the difference between &ldquo;green burial&rdquo; and other forms of ecologically conscious death care.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Copyright &copy; 2024. S. Larkin/Seattle Widow Resources</font></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Spotlight on Wild Grief]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-wild-grief]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-wild-grief#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Wed, 13 Dec 2023 15:01:19 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.seattlewidowresources.com/blog/spotlight-on-wild-grief</guid><description><![CDATA[A few weeks ago, I heard about an organization called Wild Grief, which is based in Olympia, Washington. Since I have been grieving a recent loss, I decided to find out more about this (501)(c)(3) nonprofit and what they do.Wild Grief incorporates the healing power of nature with peer support by leading grieving individuals, families, and youth on hikes and camping trips. As widows know very well, grief can be a lonely and isolating experience. Wild Grief strives to bring those who are on a simi [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="paragraph"><font color="#2a2a2a">A few weeks ago, I heard about an organization called Wild Grief, which is based in Olympia, Washington. Since I have been grieving a recent loss, I decided to find out more about this (501)(c)(3) nonprofit and what they do.<br /><br />Wild Grief incorporates the healing power of nature with peer support by leading grieving individuals, families, and youth on hikes and camping trips. As widows know very well, grief can be a lonely and isolating experience. Wild Grief strives to bring those who are on a similar path together as they experience the restorative power of the great outdoors.<br /><br />They offer a number of options for grievers. You can take a nature hike as short as two hours, or you can select a day hike of three to six hours. You can go on an overnight camping trip. Young adults can even undertake a three-day backpacking adventure.<br /><br />All these hikes are guided by individuals who are trained in outdoor leadership, first aid, and grief support. They are primarily located in the south Puget Sound area.<br /><br />The hikes (and camping supplies) are free as Wild Grief is supported by donations.<br /><br />Last weekend, as the latest &ldquo;atmospheric river&rdquo; descended on Washington state, I participated in a &ldquo;virtual&rdquo; Hike Habit. Virtual hikes are conducted via Zoom. Like other Zoom meetings, there is a facilitator and attendees can choose to join with video/audio or without.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">The Wild Grief facilitator spoke for a few minutes before attendees were encouraged to share whatever we wished to say about our grief. No one had to speak if they did not wish to. I found the facilitator to be sensitive and validating during this process.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">The virtual Hike Habit includes time away from the computer, during which we were given the option to go outside, take a walk, and possibly experience nature in a new way connected to our grief. After this break, we were encouraged to return to the Wild Grief Zoom call and share our thoughts along with the other attendees. I grabbed my umbrella and walked on a wooded path behind my home for about fifteen minutes before the rain drove me back inside. By keeping some of the facilitator&rsquo;s words in mind as related to our connection to the natural world, I did gain a greater sense of peace about my recent loss.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Another option Wild Grief offers is a &ldquo;self-guided walk,&rdquo; where you can listen to a prerecorded message as you walk on your own at any time. The narrator suggests ways of observing and interpreting what you are seeing along your walk interspersed with thoughts about the connection to grief. These self-guided walks can also be found on their website.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Wild Grief has scheduled an in-person hike for December 17 at Tumwater Falls from 11:00 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. Registration is required. For more information, click </font><a href="https://wildgrief.org/events/2023/11/10/dec-2023-hike-habit" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a>.<font color="#2a2a2a">&nbsp;For a link to Wild Grief&rsquo;s Home page, click </font><a href="https://wildgrief.org" target="_blank"><font color="#24678d">HERE</font></a><font color="#2a2a2a">.</font><br /><br /><font color="#2a2a2a">Copyright &copy;2023 S. Larkin/Seattle Widow Resources</font></div>]]></content:encoded></item></channel></rss>